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I voted no. Raj won't win any masculinity contests but he has never shown any sexual interests in men. Also, if his mutism isn't connected to somehow to women and sex then what is it about? Will he realize he's gay and become unable to talk to men?

Didn't we just have a poll and thread on this subject?

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Yes... he is a very gay little man who lives with his gay actor friends Johnny and Jim.

Moving along...

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Sure, keep jabbing me with that pen... :icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen::icon_mrgreen:

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It's beginning to look like the writers might be having move in that direction. He is unable to speak in front of all women, not just those who are young enough to attractive to him or those who are physically appealing, all women except his mother and sister. That would seem to indicate that although gender is a factor, sex is not. He also is the only one of the guys who speaks fondly of when they all had to sleep naked together while in the Arctic. But most of all, I think that Bernadette's comment "metrosexual my *ss may be a good indication of the direction they are going to have Raj go.

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I stated in another thread a while back that I thought Raj is gay. He may not know he is gay and "discovers" his orientation next season or the one after.

Let me extend that and say that if he is gay it won't affect his relationship with the other guys and girls. I believe they are all sufficiently tolerant that it wouldn't matter. This group has never been portrayed in the stereotypical comedic redneck mold as having homophobia.

That said I believe the comedic possibilities with him or his boyfriend trying to find their place with the guys' group or the girls' group are endless.

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For five seasons we have watched this character struggle with his mutism and how it affects his relationship possibilities with women. For him to be gay makes his mutism make no sense whatsoever.

Frankly, I don't care if they make him gay, straight, bi, or asexual. Whatever his relationship interests may be, this show does not need any more characters taking up the limited amount of episode space.

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For him to be gay makes his mutism make no sense whatsoever.

Actually it makes a lot of sense. A little pop psychology from someone completely clueless. Being gay he's attracted to other guys so women would leave him speechless. It could be a symptom of the internal conflict where he hasn't admitted to his homosexual tendencies. He could come out and his mutism would be cured almost instantly. Since I don't know the first thing about psychology it's wonderful because it leaves me free to spin theories out of thin air. :icon_cheesygrin:

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For him to be gay makes his mutism make no sense whatsoever.

Actually it makes a lot of sense. A little pop psychology from someone completely clueless. Being gay he's attracted to other guys so women would leave him speechless. It could be a symptom of the internal conflict where he hasn't admitted to his homosexual tendencies. He could come out and his mutism would be cured almost instantly. Since I don't know the first thing about psychology it's wonderful because it leaves me free to spin theories out of thin air. :icon_cheesygrin:

Good working philosophy. Care to take a stab at the Justin Bieber phenomenon? :icon_lol:

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I think that many simply overlook the clues that the writers have been giving this season about Raj's sexuality. The most important and recent one is Bernadette's statement of "metrosexual my *ss". The most important thing to keep in mind is that Raj is a fictional character and he is gay if the writers decide he is. From Bernadette's statement it seems fairly obvious to me that there is a very good chance that they are working towards him coming out of the closet.

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Well i for one don't think he is or that its necessary for writers to make him gay. He's already been established as a straight character for five seasons because he's had sex with women on show. Always hits on them when he's drunk and he fantasized about Bernadette a lot even to point of writing poems about her playing his clarinet. That doesn't sound like a gay man to me. Just because a man "acts gay" doesn't mean he actually want to have sex with men. I think its same joke over and over that Raj acts gay, but really wants women its just he can't be with them because of the way he acts around them (unable to talk or saying stereotypical gay things while around them)

Now granted there is nothing wrong with having one of the guys be gay, but I think the writers would be in for some HEAVY backtracking with Raj to establish him as a gay man who actually has sex with only men..because they've made it very clear he enjoys sex with women. The time he was drunk and woke up with that fat woman, he couldn't escape so he just cuddled up with her again. When Dr. Plimpton came after him, he even locked Howard and Leonard out so he could have his way with her and participate in her sex fantasy...the look he gave her as he walked towards her was of sexual desire and lust not that of a gay man pretending to be into women just to hide his true sexuality.

The writers have not done a good job at all of making it clear if that was their attention all along which I don't believe it ever was. They even made the point of having Raj fantasized about Bernadette then ended his fantasies by saying to himself "Yep I'm definitely not gay" To mean that was writers definitively stating that Raj knows he's not gay, its just he can't talk to women and he likes feminine stuff and hanging out with his male friends as close comrades not sexual partners. I also think Raj wants children someday he's mentioned this many times before and he even said he wants his wife to sing sang lullabies to their kids that his mother sang to him. He also got an erection when Penny hugged him right after that. SO he's not gay.

Frankly I think it all comes down to Raj having issues talking to women because he was coodled by his mother and tortured by his sister at a young age as well as the fat girl who called him untouchable. Having the fear that women would dominate his life forever he took comfort in a group of male friends that understood his fears as they also have issues stemming from childhood traumas involving their moms. Raj got so close to being with men it became romantic, his bromance with Howard is truly like a marriage because they argue like a old married couple, but he isn't sexually attracted to Howard that is obvious because when he finally kissed him instead of Bernadette by accident Raj didn't look happy he looked grossed out. If he were gay he wouldn't have had that look on his face after kissing a man especially a man that at that point he would have already engaged in a threesome with. Raj just wants someone to cuddle with at night, someone to love him and enjoys same things he does science and comic books, movies etc. And that person can be either male or female...but when it comes to having sex Raj is definitely into the ladies. When Leonard assumed that after not having sex for a year that Raj was hitting on him..Raj was like "don't flatter yourself dude" and porn he looks up on internet involves women not men.

Basically how I see it is that if Raj was desperate and lonely enough he'd spoon a man in bed, he'd hug him and if it were Howard he even live with him as two male best friends who act like a old married couple, but when it comes to sex which is what determines whether your heterosexual or homosexual or asexual etc. Raj would much rather be with a woman. If he went gay it would be setting a bad precedent of saying a nerdy guy with selective mutism should settle for someone they aren't that attracted to sexually just to have companionship and that is not healthy at all. It also would look like an excuse to infuse some kind of political correctness into the show by having one of the main guy nerds be gay and he just happens to be the only non-Caucasian male too so its like hitting two minorites with one stone and I don't like that kind of pandering in the media at all.

There is nothing wrong with a tv character being gay, but there is something wrong with making a straight tv character turn gay half way through the program just to be politically correct and perhaps earn TBBT some approval with GLAAD or with the gay community which it isn't necessary anyway since everyone already knows Jim is gay and he won two Emmys and a golden globe in real life which matters a lot more than fiction. I'm sorry, but that is just stupid to pander like that and I'm a black female so I'm definitely a minority on tv and espeicially on TBBT where none of the guys have EVER dated any black chicks, but its not like I'd expect say Leonard to dump Penny and hook up with one of my sistas just to create diversity or to make me feel better about myself that is just silly and people really need to stop looking for tv to do that for them anyway its about comedy and telling stories not shoring up viewers self esteem. That isn't how it should work on tv and that kind of thinking is part of what is dumbing down televison all together left and right, its all this political correctness and pretend equality that doesn't consider its audience at all who in the long run doesn't care to be pandered too or preached at regardless of the views.

Establishing characters identity and maintaining continuity are important factors for a show's sucess. Staying true to characters as Jim puts it and that is what the writers should do stay true to the characters they created in the beginning, yes they can evolve and change relationships over time, but the joke has always been that Raj acts gay, but isn't gay..the joke has never been that he is gay and is just pretending to be straight to fit in.. that is even more upsetting because its like saying Raj actually doesn't believe his friends or family would accept him if her were gay which makes no sense because his parents told him they would, his sister acts like she's always thought he was anyway and his friends don't care and would love him regardless.

No to mention gay or straight has nothing to do with solving his selective mutism problem cause gay men still need to be able to talk to women in reality and Raj needs to be able to communicate with Penny, Amy, Bernadette without being drunk so that is what writers should focus on in evolving his character not rather he is gay or straight because that is really not going to fix any of Raj's real psychological problems with women which is only thing keeping him from establishing a lasting sexual relationship with a female.

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I think that many simply overlook the clues that the writers have been giving this season about Raj's sexuality. The most important and recent one is Bernadette's statement of "metrosexual my *ss". The most important thing to keep in mind is that Raj is a fictional character and he is gay if the writers decide he is. From Bernadette's statement it seems fairly obvious to me that there is a very good chance that they are working towards him coming out of the closet.

Its been pointed out several times that Bernadette's line was throw in after the scripted line fell flat. If Raj is gay, then the mutism around women make no sense. If he is revealed as gay, will he suddenly become unable to talk to men?

This whole idea seems to be gaining its own movement. Not sure what you name people that ship a previously straight character into being gay.

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So the writers didn't really mean it? How about the incident in the Arctic where raj keeps fondly remembering the time they all slept naked together? Ring any alarm bells with anyone? Know any straight males who would think of that as a good time? As for him having previous sex with a woman as proof that he is straight, sorry but that isn't proof positive. I have heard of men who have been married for years and had kids who comes out of the closet years later and tells people that they are gay. I worked with a gay man who had a kid with a woman earlier in his life. Sorry but that is not good argument.

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Good working philosophy. Care to take a stab at the Justin Bieber phenomenon? :icon_lol:

Sure, being clueless I can spin theories about anything. What's really nice is that those theories have an internal consistency which only exists in my own mind. But since my own mind controls everything about my interactions with other people then that's all that matters, right? :icon_cheesygrin:

It's simply mob psychology. You get a bunch of people together and the mob is going to go mindless but focus on something. There's a natural synergistic effect in mobs. Problem is, like a hangover, when the mob is over there are leftovers. Since the entire mob focused on Beiber then that image is sort of imprinted. Much like the way certain images get imprinted and flashbacked in PTSD. Small mobs gain members because of the normal mob psychology so the whole mindless mob thing along with the whole imprinting hangover thing spreads. The closer to mindlessness like teenage girls the quicker the mob psychology takes over and the faster the phenomenon spreads.

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Yeah Raj is gay, the mutism explained; he deep down doesn't want to ask them out women out so he can't because he's mute; he really wants men. And yes, speaking as a gay girl, I know tons of women who had boyfriends, married men were in denial & then finally came out. So Raj can sleep with women, says he enjoys it & always have been gay.

I would love for Raj to go out with Dale from the comic book store, he was so deliciously silly.

FYI you may not realize but it does make a huge difference if the whole country sees that a sweet guy like Raj is gay.

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If Raj's mutism was sex related instead of gender, why is it that he can't talk to ANY women, regardless of whether he is sexually attracted to them or not. He can't talk in front of elderly women as well as younger ones. I think he has a problem with ALL women and the sexual aspect does not come into play.

Raj is constantly saying things that most straight heterosexual sexual males would never say and would be very uncomfortable with if one of their friends had said them. Regardless of whether Bernadette's comment about him being a metrosexual was a last minute change or not, the writers still would have her say something that is in line with where they are taking the Raj character in the future. It seems fairly obvious to me that there is a very good chance that they are going to have the Raj character ending up being gay. So what?

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So the writers didn't really mean it? How about the incident in the Arctic where raj keeps fondly remembering the time they all slept naked together? Ring any alarm bells with anyone? Know any straight males who would think of that as a good time? As for him having previous sex with a woman as proof that he is straight, sorry but that isn't proof positive. I have heard of men who have been married for years and had kids who comes out of the closet years later and tells people that they are gay. I worked with a gay man who had a kid with a woman earlier in his life. Sorry but that is not good argument.

From what we have learned about how this line came to be in the show it is hard to see it as some profound revelation. Raj may be gay, he may not be gay. His own words and sexual history say he's not. I don't care if he is or isn't. At this point I don't even care if he's on the show. He could be relegated to the role of part time appearances and I wouldn't miss him at all. His character is totally stagnant, the mutism is old, and his his 'woe is me' routine is stale. And, whatever they do with him romantically, there is not enough episode time for the characters already on the show. There is no time for another character or plot dynamic.

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So the writers didn't really mean it? How about the incident in the Arctic where raj keeps fondly remembering the time they all slept naked together? Ring any alarm bells with anyone? Know any straight males who would think of that as a good time? As for him having previous sex with a woman as proof that he is straight, sorry but that isn't proof positive. I have heard of men who have been married for years and had kids who comes out of the closet years later and tells people that they are gay. I worked with a gay man who had a kid with a woman earlier in his life. Sorry but that is not good argument.

From what we have learned about how this line came to be in the show it is hard to see it as some profound revelation. Raj may be gay, he may not be gay. His own words and sexual history say he's not. I don't care if he is or isn't. At this point I don't even care if he's on the show. He could be relegated to the role of part time appearances and I wouldn't miss him at all. His character is totally stagnant, the mutism is old, and his his 'woe is me' routine is stale. And, whatever they do with him romantically, there is not enough episode time for the characters already on the show. There is no time for another character or plot dynamic.

Absolutely "Spot On" here and to single out one reference to build a arguement is not much of a bell ringer.There have been plenty of other "for instances" to speak of the most profound statement here is : His character is totally stagnant, the mutism is old, and his his 'woe is me' routine is stale. And, whatever they do with him romantically, there is not enough episode time for the characters already on the show. There is no time for another character or plot dynamic.

So put a fork in him and let's move on :icon_biggrin:

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There is plenty of room for another character, they always bring on great interesting guest stars that I would like to see more on the show like that girl Abby that Raj made out with in Season 3 played by Danica McKellar. Raj was one who pursued her and begged Sheldon to help him by being his wingman. If Raj were gay he would have asked Sheldon to go with him to a gay bar not pick up ladies at a science university mixer. Sheldon at that point displayed only interest in going because of the green lantern Raj gave him so Sheldon would have gone to a gay bar too just to get the Lantern since Sheldon had no interest at that point in picking up anybody he was just there to help Raj. And Sheldon has shown he can pick up a guy just as easily as a girl cause he managed to get that one guys phone number while just sitting in cafeteria eating lunch, but Raj said he went to a gay bar once and no one hit on him, so even if Raj were gay he'd still need a wingman.

Also, I seriously doubt Raj would give up his much beloved prized Hulk hands just to woo a girl if he wasn't attracted to her that makes NO SENSE! Raj wanted to BE with Abby, which is why he wanted a second date! Raj also looked to be very much enjoying making out with Abby in the chair and Martha even told Sheldon they were getting busy in the living room later. If Raj were gay he wouldn't have wanted to go to all this trouble just to hook up with a FEMALE!

Also, Raj deserves to have a relationship just like the other major characters on show so even if the writers did decide to do a 180 and make Raj gay they would still eventually have to add another recurring character to show to play his boyfriend so that doesn't help the time constraint problem either way.

Gay or straight Raj still deserves happiness just as much as the other guys do and he shouldn't have to be alone for entire rest of the show just because people don't want another recurring character taking up time. Also, whose to say Raj can't be bisexual or have two mates one male and one female I mean this whole gay or straight debate is very narrow-minded thinking. For a long time people thought Sheldon was asexual now he's with Amy, so Raj could be Bisexual and not gay. But, regardless of his sexuality Raj is a sweet funny guy and he doesnt' want to be alone forever so he deserves a mate male, female or heck maybe even a real robot shipped over from Japan.

Once Raj was in a relationship he wouldnt be all "woe is me" as ya'll put it and he'd finally have someone to help him get over his mutism. Which is why I think it should be a woman because Raj needs to be able to talk to a women sober more often before he turns into a raging alcoholic. Raj's character needs more development because he's not going any where so they might as well make his time on show more interesting and funny in order to do that he has to interact with others outside of his main group of friends.

I like to see Stuart move in with him because the health department says he can't stay in his comic book store anymore since its not zone residential, but commercial property. Stuart is lonely, Raj is lonely and Howard is now married, so Stuart can become his new platonic male friend that he spends most of his time with and that would provide lots of hilarious scenarios for them and make Howard slightly jealous even though he is married to Bernadette now. Stuart and Raj can become each others wingman until Raj finds a girlfriend than once again Poor Stuart is out on his ass but that can happen towards end of the series.

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I never once thought he was gay, just effeminant and a focus of silly jokes. Would take some massive retconning to make it so, but they could if they really wanted to. I think it'd be too much of a stretch though. I've never seen him do anything that was homosexual in nature, just effeminant, and they're not the same. Reminds me of that Dana Carvey character on SNL, Lyle The Effeminant Hetereosexual.

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